A night before my 28th birthday, I checked something off my bucket list – visiting GB Road during business hours. Two friends in tow, we drove past the kothas three times. Business was in motion.
Middle aged, unkempt women were striking deals with equally frowsy men in dark corridors.
Today, the word ‘tawaif’ is an insult. To dance for the entertainment of men is a shameful thing to do. A prostitute has no say in who she is going to share her body with. She is nothing but flesh; meat for men to devour.
As we drove past GB Road that night, we saw three sedans and one SUV parked outside kotha no 64. A few young, well-dressed, good looking men stepped out of the cars and walked upstairs.
They looked like the kind of men we would meet at bars, maybe strike a conversation with or maybe even go home with. There they were, buying sex from the forlorn women at kotha no 64.
Except, back in the day, the women were invested in their art and the men sought a lot more than sex.
Tawaifs or courtesans played an important role in society. They were schooled in poetry, dance, music, politics, arts, literature and held the job of entertaining and pleasing men. Not only this, the nawaabs and nawaabzadis were sent to tawaifs to learn tehzeeb.
Tawaifs were not only not looked down upon, they were the ones responsible for inculcating what we regard as the etiquette of royalty! Sex was only a small part of what they had to offer and they could choose who they wanted to be intimate with. With complete right to say no, they were often wooed by the kings with caravans loaded with presents.
If there is anything left in our culture from the Mughal Period, it is the lives of these women. Movies such as Umrao Jaan, Mughal-e-Azam and the upcoming film Bajirao Mastani are all stories of courtesans.
All classical dance forms in our country are remnants of the dance that courtesans performed. Their ghazals andshayaristill live on… In fact, Ghalib would not have been known to us today if Mughal Jaan, a dancer and singer hadn’t put a tune to his words.
In the year 1856, the British passed the annexation of Oudh. This marked the decline of this rich period and soon, courtesans were labeled ‘prostitutes.’
Today, the word ‘tawaif’ is an insult. To dance for the entertainment of men is a shameful thing to do. A prostitute has no say in who she is going to share her body with. She is nothing but flesh; meat for men to devour.
As we drove past GB Road that night, we saw three sedans and one SUV parked outside kotha no 64. A few young, well-dressed, good looking men stepped out of the cars and walked upstairs.
They looked like the kind of men we would meet at bars, maybe strike a conversation with or maybe even go home with. There they were, buying sex from the forlorn women at kotha no 64.
One can hope that there is some sophistication still left in the way these women conduct themselves under the sheets, but all accounts prove otherwise. As I saw these men disappear into the dark staircase leading up to the blue neon ambience, a wave of dread passed through me at the thought that one really can’t tell where a man has been. It was followed by a deep sense of sadness, a longing for those years of glory lost to a long forgotten past.
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source: scoopwhoop
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